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		<title>I Want To Tell You A Story&#8230;&#8230;I Once Was Ashamed</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 18:57:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I feel like telling a story. I feel like giving a testimony. Some wont understand. Some will be non believers. Some will criticize. I welcome you to read. Maybe you&#8217;ll learn something. Lets begin. I wanna tell you a little story about some occurrences that transpired not too long ago. At the time I was [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=49&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I feel like telling a story.</p>
<p>I feel like giving a testimony.</p>
<p>Some wont understand. Some will be non believers. Some will criticize. I welcome you to read. Maybe you&#8217;ll learn something.</p>
<p>Lets begin.</p>
<p>I wanna tell you a little story about some occurrences that transpired not too long ago. At the time I was ashamed. Many know I live life as an open book to a certain degree but THIS thing embarrassed me. BADLY! And I was embarrassed because I didn&#8217;t see the meaning right away. But discernment brought me through.</p>
<p>In September of last year, my car was totaled as a result of standing water. I actually happened to be in the car when it happened. Horrid right?  I was devastated. All the horrible doubts played out in my mind immediately. After all, here I am totally unsuspecting. I have two kids going to school all the way across town in Georgetown and I now have no transportation. Moreover I wasn&#8217;t expecting to buy a new car. How the heck am I going to afford this?</p>
<p>Im crying hysterically at this point. I call Geico. I wait. The car is towed. The adjuster tells me that they will look it over and see what can be done. Im praying extra hard because I just don&#8217;t see me being able to get another car. Three days later the awful verdict is delivered. IT&#8217;S TOTALED. MAN!!!!!!!!!  But Im driving though. From the day the car was totaled I never went more than two hours without a vehicle. Enterprise came and picked me up. Am I blessed or just lucky?</p>
<p>When I got my Maxima in 09 it was a 07 with little milage. Keeping up with the same pattern, I had a car that was in pristine condition as far as mileage vs years owned. So not only did the car pay itself off, it afforded me some 4500 extra. Cha ching!   Can you say elated!!!!</p>
<p>At once I start looking and I find myself at the dealership. Hmmmm. Could I get that car I wanted when I got my Maxima but was afraid to jump out there? Had I been responsible enough that I now deserved it? Lets add it all up! Nothing beats a failure but a try.</p>
<p>I found myself the perfect car. Low mileage, ruby red metallic in color ! This is it! Im excited at this point! Im taking this one home today!  I asked for the keys for a test drive and&#8230;&#8230;.. the damn car wouldn&#8217;t start. The salesman had to give it a jump and when it finally did come on it had hella smoke coming out the exhaust.  Plus it was filthy on the inside, like they just didn&#8217;t care to sell it. Oh naw. No thanks buddy!  This would count as heartbreak number one. Trust me there&#8217;s a few throughout this story! LOL</p>
<p>Although I continued to look , nothing quite measured up to the excitement I felt when I first saw Ruby red. So I decided to go on a search. I searched for two days for I know what had to be a total of 6 hours. I put in that work! And thennnnnn, I found her! AHHHHHHHHHHHH! The heavens had shined down on me! Yes, Jesus DID love me! My car was in South Carolina and I was gonna have it shipped up. I waited three weeks and then she arrived. PERFECT! No scratches or dents. She was everything for so many reasons. She was my blessing. It&#8217;s no way I should&#8217;ve been getting a car. nevertheless one I wanted. I was in a low cycle in life. Why God? Well, I just took it as a sign that he saw me. My efforts had not been ignored and it was a reward. It was an honor to feel honored by God. It was refreshing to see the example manifest of God keeping his word to the faithful!</p>
<p>Everything was going just fine. I had been driving Ruby for about two weeks and then suddenly my bumper was sitting on the ground on Constitution Ave. Picking the kids up from school and someone turned out right in front of me. WTH!!! Why ????? Many of you remember a tweet where I was vague and said the kids where involved in an accident. What I left out was that it was me that was driving. I was  too ashamed. I still had the paper tags for goodness sake!  And even though it wasn&#8217;t my fault I felt bad. I didn&#8217;t feel like being judged.</p>
<p>At this point I&#8217;m questioning myself. Did I do something wrong? Had I offended someone? Maybe God wasn&#8217;t rewarding me . Was this all just a lesson? Is the car totaled? Am I really this stupid and careless? I&#8217;m right back in the same position. Without a car. Oh yes. I beat myself up badly!</p>
<p>The one thing  that I was thankful about was that no one was hurt.The kids turned out to be fine. At this point I was bartending full time and very well couldn&#8217;t afford to not be able to stand. I was grateful that I could continue to work. I didn&#8217;t pursue any therapy or monetary compensation. It wasn&#8217;t worth the hassle. Plus I&#8217;m a firm believer when you lie about your health, you sometimes suffer that fate.</p>
<p>The good news was that the car was fixed. With no damage to the radiator , all that was needed was cosmetic.  I had my car back three days after I turned 30. Then another unfortunate incident. For reasons beyond my control, I had to leave my job . I swear if it isn&#8217;t one thing its another!!! Why Lord? Why is it always something? Now I&#8217;ve got a new car and NO JOB! What part of the plan was this? And it&#8217;s RIGHT before Christmas!  I felt like I was gonna lose it! No bull.</p>
<p>But then, as it always does, something happened. I got a phone call from the adjuster on the other persons behalf. I wasn&#8217;t certain why he would even call me since I&#8217;d gotten my car back a week before. Unbeknownst to me, he said that he wanted to offer me a settlement on behalf of the kids and myself.</p>
<p>I sat in silence for a second.</p>
<p>So let me get this right. I&#8217;ve just gone through what I felt was the worst personal humiliation, parted with my beloved car for three weeks, was blessed that no real damage was done, and refused to lie in order to gain extra money but you&#8217;re still willing to offer me a settlement? And just then it all made sense. The foresight of God is incredible. See, my car being damaged was NEVER the intended focus. God knows that I&#8217;ve asked him to keep me, to make sure I was always able to be a whole parent and protect me form anything that doesn&#8217;t allow me to be. It was never about a punishment. It was a means for him to bless me, to make sure I had enough to carry me through the storm of not having a job and making sure he made good on his promise to me. How could I EVER have doubted Him? He saw what was ahead and he made a definite way. WOW! So much mercy, so much grace!  I&#8217;m not ordained ( or at least he hasn&#8217;t told me so yet). I have no special talents to get what I want . But I do believe.  None of what I think is horrible ever turns out that way. I hold God accountable and even though I sometimes lose sight, he always makes sure he shows me he is standing with me because I  stand for something. Im doing the best I can with what I got and he always makes sure that its enough.</p>
<p>I also got another schooling as to my feelings. I guess at the time I was thinking that it would just make a miserable persons day to see that I had messed up my new car and I didn&#8217;t want to give that satisfaction. While I didn&#8217;t HAVE to share what happened with anyone, because it is my business, it was no need to feel shame. Who cares if somebody gets a thrill out of my hardships? They are just making the cross they will have to bare heavier. Talk all you want. It wont stop the abundance.</p>
<p>I say all of this in an effort to offer encouragement. Never lose sight of who your source is. Always discern your blessings and give thanks. Live faithfully.</p>
<p>Mel</p>
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		<title>Dear Future Husband&#8230;&#8230;..</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Feb 2012 20:01:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Future Husband, I pray that you are in good health, that you have a sound mind and are gearing yourself  for one of the most important titles you&#8217;ll ever hold, my Husband. I pray that you are eating well, visiting the doctor and enjoying life I&#8217;ve made it 30 years without you but now [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=44&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Future Husband,</p>
<p>I pray that you are in good health, that you have a sound mind and are gearing yourself  for one of the most important titles you&#8217;ll ever hold, my Husband.</p>
<p>I pray that you are eating well, visiting the doctor and enjoying life <img src='http://s0.wp.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>I&#8217;ve made it 30 years without you but now I think it&#8217;s time. I know I cannot rush divinity and Im not trying to. When I say it&#8217;s time, I&#8217;m speaking of the time and care I took for myself to make sure I was ready for you.  I&#8217;ve mastered the art of preservation, learned about being submissive and am ready to compromise. I know that its important that we are like minded, share the same common goals and beliefs and seek to give more than we look to receive from each other.  Know that I&#8217;ve been praying for you as well as myself for awhile. After every love I thought I had and lost , I still always know that you will come one day. I haven&#8217;t allowed those mishaps to take away from what truly matters. Many have disappointed me and left me with little hope at times. I&#8217;ve been manipulated, sold a dream, and raped. I&#8217;ve been abandoned taken advantage of but I am not bitter. Some years I lashed out on love. In latter years I totally shunned monogamous love. But that was just my way of trying to convince myself that I didn&#8217;t need something that I really did want. This world will leave you feeling that its better off to play games. We live in a time in society where people have missed the mark of what true love is and do things out of comfort and stability, forming no real bond. Then all thats left to perpetuate is the negative feelings they felt all in the name of their conditional &#8220;love.&#8221; I wont waiver in faith though.  All those situations were lessons to prepare for you.</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t gotten discouraged at the fact that others have found a mate and I have not because God works in all of our lives differently and what&#8217;s for me, is for me. I haven&#8217;t lost sight of the fact that everything that looks good , ain&#8217;t good. Some are married , few are 100 % happy. I take solace in knowing that God has kept and is perfecting me and you  for that joyous day when we will both be able to identify that each other is &#8220;the one&#8221; and start a journey together.</p>
<p>I pray that if you are in a situation that is unhappy that you get all the courage and strength that you need to move forward. Im not upset but I do want the best for you. Do not be scared as we all deserve genuine happiness. I pray that if you are single you don&#8217;t allow the ways of the world to tempt you and throw you off course. After all, we both have to meet in the middle here.</p>
<p>Perhaps I&#8217;ve even met you or you are reading this. I have an idea who you are but Im not for certain that this is the right time. I have people in my ear telling me that if you already knew him he&#8217;d be yours . But I don&#8217;t listen. Neither of us are perfect and they aren&#8217;t either! Nobody can tell me whats for me that isn&#8217;t God. Maybe you needed to take some losses in order to appreciate me. Maybe you needed to go through a maturation process and it wasn&#8217;t time for us to be together, but it let you know where you should aspire to be. I&#8217;m not unrealistic. I know you wont be coming from the sky like some perfect greek God but just perfect enough for me. You might not even be saved right now but I pray you will be.</p>
<p>Everyone has their own preconceived notions of how things should go but as life has shown you, nothing ever really goes the way we plan it to. I wont hold your mistakes against you and I hope you will do the same. It&#8217;s evident I got a little beside myself because I&#8217;ve birthed two kids. LOL They aren&#8217;t the mistake, but I acted out too soon and before I knew how special it was to actually have a real bond with the person you reproduce with. As a result, there have been many hardships. But that just adds to the strength and character in me. I know that because you will be awesome, you will admire my ability to keep it together under all the things I&#8217;ve been faced with.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t be discouraged by what you see in the women of today. I am still here. I haven&#8217;t given into the trend and I wont. My coined motto is that I am wonderfully made and shall be treated as such at all times. I know not to devalue myself. Im beyond the material and just looking for the unconditional. Id happily live in a box as long as I was with you:)</p>
<p>Until it is our time&#8230;&#8230;</p>
<p>Love,</p>
<p>Mel</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[I find it sad when people ask what&#8217;s so wrong in a persons life that they&#8217;d want to commit suicide. I mean, the obvious sign is pain of some sort but its bigger than that. In this life we&#8217;ve been called to live, the two emotions you can&#8217;t hide from are love and hate. Both [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=36&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I find it sad when people ask what&#8217;s so wrong in a persons life that they&#8217;d want to commit suicide.</p>
<p>I mean, the obvious sign is pain of some sort but its bigger than that.</p>
<p>In this life we&#8217;ve been called to live, the two emotions you can&#8217;t hide from are love and hate. Both are powerful enough to make you do irrational and crazy things. In a time where people confuse pain and hurt with minuscule discrepancies, its easy to be unable to comprehend what pain is and the burden it may leave or mark on someones life. Misunderstandings and differences of opinions don&#8217;t equate to pain although they may very well bruise your ego. Hurt and pain are deliberate actions that cause your emotions to surge. When you don&#8217;t understand that each of these terms have their own meanings and don&#8217;t blend, it&#8217;s often times hard for you to see the bigger picture. You cant compare what you consider hurt of your boyfriend not seeing your point in an argument to the hurt of someone who is two pennies away from being poor or hasn&#8217;t eaten in days.</p>
<p>No matter the reason a person gives for wanting to take their life, be it lack funds, loneliness, employment, the loss of romance or a feeling of hopelessness, the true elements that propel them to the next level are a lack of love and support. No one comes onto this earth hating life. Babies are clean slates waiting to absorb any energy this world has to offer, good or bad. It is the evil ways of the world and its selfishness that change a persons way of thinking. No matter what people say, any thoughts that a person expresses to you in relation to taking their own life is a cry for help. Its never JUST A JOKE! It would be wise to  pour all of what you can into that person and keep a watchful eye on them.  But most don&#8217;t. They assume that its a temporary emotion that the person is going through and go on about their  way. Imagine you calling out for help in a dire situation and everyone turning their back? You&#8217;d feel <strong>crazy</strong>. You&#8217;d feel <strong>alone</strong>, that no one <strong>cares</strong> and ultimately that you&#8217;re better off not staying here and being a burden to others .</p>
<p>Not certain on how a single mother would feel that its ever rational to take her and her kids life? Put yourself in her shoes and imagine being judged and told , &#8220;No one told you to have those kids.&#8221; She feels worthless. She feels like all she&#8217;s done was make mistakes. She may even feel that if you don&#8217;t care about her kids and she&#8217;s right here on earth, how can she trust anyone to take care of them when she&#8217;s gone? What has happened in anyones life cant be changed, but how YOU treat others when they are in need will be counted against you on judgement day. Know that its your work here that determines your karma and final destination.</p>
<p>Im crying writing this. I&#8217;ve been to the pits of hopelessness and despair more than enough times to be able to relate and to sympathize with persons who feel alone.  People go on living through nightmares and don&#8217;t tell you all of their business but their are always signs. The first is depression. Don&#8217;t turn your backs on your friends. Don&#8217;t say you don&#8217;t have the time to deal with their &#8220;shit&#8221;.  HELP THEM! Help them turn their negatives into positives. I&#8217;ve given up my last to help a person before and if I don&#8217;t have it, I offer my talents. I can do hair, I can cook and I have a car. All it takes to cheer a woman up sometimes  is to make her feel pretty. Its been countless times I&#8217;ve done hair and bonded with women to make them feel better. I will cook up a feast and invite you over to let you know I appreciate your company . And I&#8217;ll invite you out for a good time to help you forget about your worries. Its not always about a coin or what somebody can do for you. SUPPORT HELPS! Its no better feeling in the world than when somebody knows they have a team. Heck, I gave a lady my number yesterday that was helpful to me. She kept on speaking about how she doesn&#8217;t get out or do much, how she has no family or friends here. My response, &#8220;Here&#8217;s my number call me. Ill show you around.&#8221; That was her plea on behalf of loneliness right there. I did what I could and thought was best.</p>
<p>I know some of you have turned cold towards people yourself because you&#8217;ve been done wrong but stop being so mean. Get out of your own way. If you see somebody going in the wrong direction please, at least lend your ear and a compassionate heart. If you know the goodness of the Lord, please pour it into them. Be a light for someone. Tell them all the ways that God has made a way for you (<strong> without boasting</strong> ) and bombard them with positive thoughts. Even the people you consider strong and powerful need words of encouragement sometimes. Don&#8217;t assume everything is alright. Genuinely ask somebody if they are okay.</p>
<p>RIP to Don Cornelius and Ashley Duncan. One was a 75 year old icon the other was a 17 year old baby. Both gone from gunshot wounds to the head, self inflicted. Please know that despair shows no discrimination due to age.</p>
<p>I encourage you all to practice selflessness and get involved.</p>
<p>Love,</p>
<p>Mel</p>
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		<title>Hypothetically Thinking&#8230;..My Thoughts.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:52:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Divinity exist. This blog is coming to you courtesy of my friend Ashanti. She told me that my words pierced her this weekend and thanked me for my insight. It&#8217;s all she has spoken of since Saturday. Today she asked me to quote exactly what I said to her on Saturday so she can make [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=28&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Divinity exist.</p>
<p>This blog is coming to you courtesy of my friend Ashanti. She told me that my words pierced her this weekend and thanked me for my insight. It&#8217;s all she has spoken of since Saturday. Today she asked me to quote exactly what I said to her on Saturday so she can make sure she never forgets as she was trying to send a tweet out. LOL</p>
<p>So as a gift to her, I&#8217;ll blog it and she&#8217;ll aways be able to reference it no matter what:) As a matter of fact, I think some others could benefit from these words as well. This is gonna be one of three blogs because I&#8217;ve got alot to say about love and relationships in this area! LOL</p>
<p>Last year, my faith, my knowledge and everything I perceived to be the gospel when it came to relationships was challenged. I was a person that never wanted to get married because I was sure that I&#8217;d never find one whole person that would provide everything I was looking for. I wasn&#8217;t willing to  settle and I believed so much in the sacredness of marriage for myself that I knew it&#8217;d be best if I stayed single.</p>
<p>The one thing that I pride myself on is being able to cut my losses right away. Where so many people try to make squares fit into triangles, I&#8217;ve mastered the art of compatibility and being selective. My own belief now is that there is only one TRUEST partner for us all and to accept anything else is a substitute. When you get involved with or stay in situations for convenience or stability it will always hinder you. Sure, you two can live an okay life together but most will never experience pure, unadulterated love. The feeling where the other persons happiness is as much of a priority as your own. Where you look to give rather than receive and it&#8217;s reciprocated. Where there&#8217;s an abundance of everything because you&#8217;re both each others concern.</p>
<p>Nah. You guys have become so complacent or have either gotten hurt once and decided that its best to be selfish from here on out. Or either you&#8217;ve become lonely to the point where you&#8217;re dealing with things you know aren&#8217;t acceptable in hopes of sticking it out and molding your partner. Is this you? Chances are you ARE here if you aren&#8217;t living and thriving in a healthy relationship. When you stay in dysfunctional situations there is ABSOLUTELY something wrong with YOU. Don&#8217;t take offense. It has happened to the best of us. Never forget that and always seek understanding and guidance. ( This excludes single by choice)</p>
<p>&#8220;What do you look for in a guy?&#8221;</p>
<p>That&#8217;s the worst shit you can ever ask me! That&#8217;s a question that shouldn&#8217;t ever come up. I&#8217;ll never tell you so its a waste of breathe. It&#8217;s a question most will delve into and start rattling off a long ass list  without giving it much thought. But lets examine it. You&#8217;re asking me for reasons of trying to figure out what I like in hopes of becoming that, especially if you&#8217;ve already taken a great liking to me as an individual. It&#8217;s very rare that someone asks this in an effort to weed you out as potential. While this may flatter some women, it shouldn&#8217;t. This is one of the ways you end up with a man that was perfect in the beginning but a few months down the line is nothing like what you expected . It&#8217;s in a mans&#8217; nature to woo a woman that he has set his sights on and we respond to actions and cling onto memories. So once he&#8217;s done playing the role and dealing the facade, once he&#8217;s got you right where he wants you , you&#8217;re stuck! And you&#8217;re stuck  because you&#8217;re trying to figure out why your dream guy is no more. You&#8217;re grasping for straws for the rest of the relationship trying to rekindle what once was. Even though you aren&#8217;t happy in your current state with that person, you stay. You have faith in it. You believe it can return to where it once was because it happened before. Truth is it never was. He did what he had to do to get what he wanted. And alot of times its not to use and abuse you but rather to get a woman that otherwise wouldn&#8217;t have given him the time of the day. Let&#8217;s be honest! How many times have you said to yourself &#8221; If I woulda known then what I know now?&#8221; Thats telling you right there that you would have never been bothered had it not been for you falling for what you perceived to be the real him.</p>
<p>Women have to learn to be reserved. Hold on and slow down. Allow a person to SHOW you rather looking to turn him into what you like. I never tell a man how to act. I never give suggestions because after all, if I have to teach you actions that should be genuine, if it feels anything close to robotic, if he has to remind himself of actions that should have been genuine, than you as well as he are selling yourselves short. That&#8217;s not divinity. Thats not who is meant for you. Who has to remind a person to call them or spend time with them? LOL</p>
<p>Everyone deserves to be with someone that they can be totally in tune with without having to change a character trait that makes them who they are. I think that you should wait for whats been promised to you and bypass anyone who seems not to want you.</p>
<p>Be yourselves at all cost and know that its okay to walk away.</p>
<p>Mel</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 02:37:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Your Business, My Reputation</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:40:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A quick disclaimer before we start. Whatever goes on that involves you and I becomes your business as well as mine. Its not something you told me and I decided to tell others. If I decide to write about something that happened with me that involves you too, its just as much my right to [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=23&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A quick disclaimer before we start. Whatever goes on that involves you and I becomes your business as well as mine. Its not something you told me and I decided to tell others. If I decide to write about something that happened with me that involves you too, its just as much my right to speak on it as yours. This is something that people forget so often. Don&#8217;t start none, wont be none.</p>
<p>Moving on&#8230;&#8230;</p>
<p>As we become adults, and become more aware of the ways of the world, its our responsibility to evolve. Spiritually, financially, emotionally, and even physically (even though thats not the best part for some), growth is essential. What was exciting  10 years ago shouldn&#8217;t entice you as much now.</p>
<p>In dealings with friends/associates, I&#8217;ve learned its better to offer an ear and advice for them to better themselves overall instead of giving an OPINION on the matter. You know back in the day it wasn&#8217;t no thing to be like &#8221; yes, girl&#8230;fuck him because I saw him with so and so and I don&#8217;t know what was going on but they looked real friendly&#8230;.&#8221; Yeah, all of that. Even if you turned out to be right, often times it didn&#8217;t save anything because 8 times out of 10 the  chic is revealing her sources aka snitching on the snitch! Now instead of being the friend that was helping, he&#8217;s flipped it and made you the friend thats miserable, aint got no life and they&#8217;re still together. Lesson learned. Let people learn from their own mistakes. Pray for them and keep it moving.</p>
<p>So I don&#8217;t understand at 30, if Im mature enough to see that I should be minding my business, why would you purposely put me in your business. I know you&#8217;re lost. Let me explain.</p>
<p>See myself, I&#8217;ve always made an effort to keep certain things separate. Its not that I have a problem with my significant other being around my friends/associates but I feel like some situations don&#8217;t require him to be there. He&#8217;s not one of the girls. He&#8217;s my confidant for when them bitches get on my nerves! LOL He should level the amount of estrogen that I&#8217;m subjected to at any given moment. My friends and I , well, I couldn&#8217;t even tell you about half of their freak compatibility because quite frankly I don&#8217;t discuss sex with them. There&#8217;s never any reason for me to discuss what my dude is making, working, purchasing or where he&#8217;s living. <strong>You brag and you get your man bagged, OKAY! &lt;== Word to HBthaStylist! LOL</strong></p>
<p><strong></strong> Before you go and  jump on me asking about why am I  around females I cant trust, keep in mind it doesn&#8217;t even have to be my friend that decides to try him out. It could be my friend who innocently brags on my behalf when asked how Im doing and HER friend decides she wants to test the waters. Chics are sneaky. Protect ya neck B!</p>
<p>All in all I do this because I feel its whats right. He doesn&#8217;t need to be in their business and they don&#8217;t need to be all up in ours as well. Its a proponent of loyalty from both standpoints. And its what I expect in return. Sadly, I don&#8217;t get it often times hence you&#8217;ve seen the term friend/associate a lot in this post.</p>
<p>Which brings me to the point of it all. Recently, I had a situation where I feel as though someone I fraternize with jeopardized my reputation for their own ploy. Without giving too much of the situation, basically I was made to look like the bad guy in the situation. I was placed into a scenario I had no parts of. Now to this persons significant other, I look like a whole piece of shit and a wack ass friend. When I asked the person, why would you lead one to believe that I would treat you in any negative manner as your friend, the response was &#8221; he don&#8217;t care about you.&#8221; Well Miss lady that&#8217;s fine and dandy but do you think for one second if my name comes up that person is not gonna reflect on the last thing they heard about me and speak on it? You think if your name comes up that couldn&#8217;t float itself into the conversation? I mean come on now! It&#8217;s 2012! Folks hot out here!  One thing I pride on is being a good friend to the ones I genuinely befriend. I would NEVER use their name in an effort to make a point. If I cant make the point by myself, it may just be that theres no point to the shit I&#8217;m trying to prove. The lack of loyalty there, the fact that I was allowed to be slandered without warrant made me really magnify the dealings with that person and decide if its worth it at all. I concluded that I&#8217;m not too mad. Some folks simply don&#8217;t live the by the same guidelines as me. I&#8217;ve adjusted their position and now act accordingly. Hi and bye.</p>
<p>To close the rant, I don&#8217;t wanna be in your business, you don&#8217;t have to tell me your business. I like it just well on my side of the grass and I&#8217;d like to keep it that way with as little mud as possible.</p>
<p>In 2012 Mel don&#8217;t know SHIT and don&#8217;t wanna know!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Apparently, I&#8217;m way sensitive to the normal lusty, homosexual jokes that chics throw each others way. I discovered this last week. It started as a simple tweet and left me really thinking and pondering why I reacted as strongly as I did. An avi on mobile twitter is sometimes small and not too clear. I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=14&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Apparently, I&#8217;m way sensitive to the normal lusty, homosexual jokes that chics throw each others way.</p>
<p>I discovered this last week. It started as a simple tweet and left me really thinking and pondering why I reacted as strongly as I did.</p>
<p>An avi on mobile twitter is sometimes small and not too clear. I just happened to take notice that  a friend was wearing a see through shirt and me being me decided to poke at her!  I&#8217;m known for picking with folks.Your eyes can often deceive you but in this instance I didn&#8217;t really put too much into it.  So I sent a tweet telling her she got her boobs all out and her reply was &#8220;only half of it&#8221;  with her silly self. I then followed up by saying &#8221; Naw, boo! That&#8217;s nipples.&#8221; But it was her reply to this that really got me out of character . She quoted it, to all of twitter mind you, and responded with &#8221; Cause you drooling huh? LLS.&#8221;</p>
<p>ERKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK! STOP ALL THE PRESSES!!! WT!!!!</p>
<p>Instantly I was bothered. That was the end of the twitter exchanges right there. I don&#8217;t believe in giving twitter all of that so I took it to text. Anybody that knows me knows I&#8217;m a straight shooter and I have no problem stating what pleases or displeases me. I wasn&#8217;t mad BUT I wanted to express my discomfort with her tweet. So my text was simple.&#8221; I don&#8217;t like your last tweet.&#8221; No venom involved but still displaying my disdain. Her response was that she was quoting a line from the movie Boomerang and asked me did I remember. Hell no I don&#8217;t remember. Boomerang came out 20 years ago! LOL</p>
<p>But as simple and lighthearted as that was I was immediately infuriated by a tweet she meant nothing by. Okay. How do we dissect this Mel? The first and only thing I could think about was the encounter that I had at 18. Unbeknownst to me, some lesbians prey on straight women. I also was naive to the fact that not all fems aspired to be with doms. Some fems like fems!</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve never been one to judge so when friends introduced me to their longtime friend in 2000, I was cool with it even in knowing she liked girls. She was cool and she liked to shop like me so we hit it off. What I didn&#8217;t know is that the whole time we were spending all this time around each other it was enticing her and making her feel like we were actually something. Everything came to a head that September. I get a phone call from my friend. &#8221; Oh you didn&#8217;t have to hide it from us if you was going like that. We would still be your friend. &#8221; <strong>What the hell are you talking about? Im lost.</strong> She then goes onto to explain how she&#8217;d received a letter from fem stating that she and I were indeed  a couple. I LOST IT! In the middle of lunch, had ordered and everything, I left and made my way straight to fems job at Best Buy in Pentagon City. Walked in the place and ensued a full on physical assault on fem in the speaker room. Broke speakers and all. It wasn&#8217;t so much because of what was said but because I felt betrayed. Here I am being a friend to her and she&#8217;s plotting on me the whole time. Taking my kindness and nativity for weakness and in essence, working towards trying to &#8220;turn me out.&#8221; This combined with me being a hot headed , non rational teenager made for this disastrous end. Even after that , I saw her at their house and ended up  kneeing her in the face and bussing her nose wide open. She just wouldn&#8217;t quit with the invading of my personal space! Don&#8217;t touch me chic. Like really. Especially grabbing for my breast!</p>
<p>Why you may ask? It was all the other details of the phone call. How my friend detailed the way she would insinuate and simulate things while I was sleep. That she on occasion touched me places she wouldn&#8217;t dare if I was awake. I sleep hard. I&#8217;m pissed! Why would they let her take advantage of me like that? Simple. They assumed and took her word for it because flirting with being gay was so common place.</p>
<p>So I guess I got so offended today because I never want to be misidentified like that again. I&#8217;m a firm believer that folks take a mile when given millimeters. I don&#8217;t want to ever be in a situation where I&#8217;m taken advantage of or tried because of peoples assumptions. I don&#8217;t believe that the person I had the twitter exchange with is gay but quoting it and insinuating I was drooling over HER BREAST could&#8217;ve given many the wrong idea. LOL</p>
<p>Make no mistake. I&#8217;m not homophobic but you forcing lesbian sexuality on me is like me forcing fem to deal with guys. It&#8217;s my prerogative and right to like what I like. I don&#8217;t have a problem with what anyone does in their life. I don&#8217;t even mind if someone of the same sex is attracted to me because I cant control what you&#8217;re eyes see and like. What I am expecting is that you respect the lines and don&#8217;t cross them the same way I respect your sexuality and don&#8217;t judge you.</p>
<p>As for the offense I took to those tweets, Ima work on that. LOL</p>
<p>Everyday is an oppurtunity to change your train of thought.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8230;&#8230;that I&#8217;m not perfect. Never will be. Not aspiring to be. I&#8217;m a Scorpio ( yes I totally believe in horoscopes, sue me!) , single mother of two, determined to shed the ways of my past to become a better human being. Period. This blog is named the emancipated me because for so long there [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=theemancipatedme.wordpress.com&amp;blog=31235540&amp;post=1&amp;subd=theemancipatedme&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8230;&#8230;that I&#8217;m not perfect. Never will be. Not aspiring to be.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m a Scorpio ( yes I totally believe in horoscopes, sue me!) , single mother of two, determined to shed the ways of my past to become a better human being. Period.</p>
<p>This blog is named the emancipated me because for so long there has been a void and its becoming seriously apparent. I&#8217;ve been scared to write because I had a fear of failure. Scared to delve deep because I know this is my purpose in life and I don&#8217;t wanna mislead anyone. I feel like sometimes I&#8217;m just existing and have yet to really feel what living is. Despite all my personal feats, I&#8217;ve yet to truly do what I feel I should and that&#8217;s write WITH a purpose. I&#8217;ve blogged before but back then it was to vent. I was young and it was funny. This time around it&#8217;s to teach, and help and hopefully give a contribution to the universe. Yeah, I&#8217;m thinking BIG!</p>
<p>Blogging again is to get my feet wet but the real aspiration is to start writing a book and actually complete it! LOL</p>
<p>That book shall serve as a platform for me to become a motivational speaker for the youth, particularly young women. Nothing fuels hunger like people being receptive to your works , good or bad. If I don&#8217;t do this, if I don&#8217;t take this chance, I will surely regret it. No question.</p>
<p>No one wants to leave the world without making some type of mark. My legacy shall be created  by the words I write and the ability to connect with most anyone. I&#8217;m an observer of all, and can be quite opinionated . In the same retrospect I&#8217;m also fair. I&#8217;m at my best when I&#8217;m writing.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m sure this blog post sounds very serious. That&#8217;s good. I am.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m flawed. I&#8217;m defiant of the norm. And lawd knows you can&#8217;t tell me nothing. Passionate isn&#8217;t the word when describing me! I have extremely good days and I have extremely bad days. There&#8217;s no gray area when you&#8217;re dealing with a person like me.  If you take this journey with me those days are sure to be chronicalized . All I ask is that you think outside the box and be receptive to new ways of thinking</p>
<p>So, nothing left to say but enjoy and for goodness sakes, LEAVE A COMMENT! I can&#8217;t do this by myself!</p>
<p>Well wishes!</p>
<p>Mel</p>
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